When you’re feeling down, people always tell you to look on the bright side and to simply shake the bad things off. But in all reality, how would a person just do that? I have to admit that I’ve always been one of those people who tries to remain optimistic. You know, one who likes to make lemonade out of spoiled lemons and one who tries to see a rainbow full of skittles falling being every storm cloud?
Until recently, I had an experience that made me realize – that sometimes the circumstances of life really just suck! And no matter how much of an optimist you may be or how friendly of a person that you are – there is always someone out there in the world who sees in you in a different light. I have to say, that’s really unfortunate that people act this way, but that’s life.
Some people relate this type of behavior to a barrell filled with crabs – when one of them gets to the top, the others will tug and pull and try to bring that one back down to the bottom with them. I have to admit, that when you are consistently being pulled and pinched and have reached your breaking point – you can’t just shake it off! Not at that moment at least. But maybe later.
When your emotions are at a high and you’re feeling really hurt, disappointed, sad, angry, and down in the dumps – “shake it off” is probably the last thing that you want to hear! But I get it. Human nature urges us to be sympathetic to each other and when you see things like this happening to a friend – you obviously want to do what you can to bring them comfort.
Obviously, the intentions behind sympathetic cliche’s are good natured, although sometimes they simply just have the worst timing, or maybe it’s just that people aren’t using them correctly. Being lost in your feelings, moping around and being mad at the world are common coping mechanisms but they only last for a short period of time.
From my own personal experience, I learned that eventually you just have to get over it. It’s tough in the beginning, but it can happen. It’s okay to cry for a minute – but once those tears dry – it’s time to replace the emotional saga with your game face! We’ve all heard the old saying “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.” There will not be a third time.
The reality is, that once you have been hurt by someone – subconsciously you are never going to remain the same. But you come out stronger, and a little bit wiser. People may say that you’ve changed and may not even like it. And when this happens, it’s important to remember that you don’t owe anyone an explaination. As long as you are happy with yourself, that is all that matters!
A kind hearted person will always want to feel liked and accepted by others. Just remember to keep in mind that you will be in time. You just have to find the right crowd!